Finding the right person is hard. Being attracted to the wrong one is just as common.
In this episode of Office Hours, I explore why some people find themselves stuck in the same dating patterns over and over again, pursuing partners who are unavailable, manipulative, emotionally destructive, or struggling with addiction. I explain why attraction can override good judgment, why certain personality types are especially alluring, and how to learn from past mistakes and create healthier patterns in love.
This episode focuses on choosing the right person in the first place. If you haven't yet listened to my episode, 3 Rules to Fall in Love and Stay in Love, I recommend it as a companion to this conversation. Together, they offer a roadmap for both finding love and building a lasting relationship.
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Referenced:
• The Meaning of Your Life: Finding Purpose in an Age of Emptiness
• The Pursuit of Happiness with Arthur Brooks
• Nearly Half of U.S. Adults Say Dating Has Gotten Harder for Most People in the Last 10 Years
• Mate Choice Copying in Humans
• The ability to judge the romantic interest of others
• Are daughters of alcoholics more likely to marry alcoholics?
• The sociopaths among us: How to spot (and avoid) a Dark Triad
• The dark triad: Facilitating a short‐term mating strategy in men
• Emophilia: An overlooked (but not forgotten) construct in relationships and individual differences
• Life outcomes and relationship dispositions: The unique role of Emophilia
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